The Importance of Intentional Challenges for Men, EP 28

In this episode, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and marriage and family therapist Kristal DeSantis delve into the unique challenges men face in seeking help and support. They discuss the importance of community, intentional challenges, and the societal expectations that often prevent men from reaching out for assistance. Kristal shares insights from her book, “Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man,” exploring the scarcity of resources for men in relationships and mental health. Josh and Kristal emphasize the need for men to step up to challenges, highlighting the balance between risk, safety, and growth in relationships. They discuss the six aspects of a healthy relationship—safety, trust, respect, openness, nurturing, and generosity—and the crucial roles of self-awareness, stability, self-regulation, and self-expression. This conversation encourages men to live authentically, aligned with their values, while seeking the support and resources they need to thrive.

 

Resources

“Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man” Kristal DeSantis: https://amzn.to/4fP6Y67

 

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Book Overview

03:09 The Lack of Resources for Men in Relationships and Mental Health

08:00 Empowering Men to Seek Help and Therapy

15:24 The Importance of Intentional Challenges for Men

25:50 Building Community Support for Men

27:35 Stepping Up to Challenges

29:59 The Interplay Between Risk, Challenge, and Safety

32:33 The Importance of Self-Awareness and Confidence

35:24 Self-Regulation and Self-Expression in Relationships

48:20 Living a Life Aligned with Your Values

54:31 Seeking Help and Resources for Personal Growth