The Derelict Podcast

I Failed At Religion As a Young Man: EP 25

Religion, take 2! In this episode, host Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni delves into his experience with religion as a young man. The time where our childhood religious beliefs are challenged can be difficult- even into adulthood! Tune in for more failures and lessons and we continue to dive deep into being authentic, vulnerable, and awesome derelicts! Listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
Blue Like Jazz, Donald Miller: https://amzn.to/3QuDCPw
Jesus in the Margins, Rick McKinley: https://amzn.to/3QsFYhT
“The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill” Podcast: https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/podcasts/rise-and-fall-of-mars-hill/
 
Chapters:
00:00 Welcome!
05:48 How have I failed lately?
14:15 Community is key?
22:35 Knowledge and Structure are key?
31:40 Community involvement is key?
35:00 Tribe is key?
38:24 Outreach is key?
44:30 Revolution & Magnetism are key?
51:30 This is NOT the end

I Failed at Religion as a Kid: EP 24

Were you raised in a religious household? What's your spiritual journey look like now?
In this episode, host Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni opens up about his journey with religion as a kid and the many failures along the way! Do you relate?  
Listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
South Park, Purity Ring: https://youtu.be/0pSTQBAKnsg?feature=shared
 
Chapters:
00:00 Welcome!
06:45 How have I failed lately?
12:06 Religion as a kid!
17:05 Evangelism is key?
22:14 Experience is key?
28:00 Rules and Image are key?
41:15 No Regrets!

What’s more important: self-confidence or self-worth? EP 23

Kevin Palmieri from @NextLevelUniversity chats with Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni about his journey of self-belief and self-worth, and how external success can sometimes trigger internal turmoil. He shares personal experiences of facing fear and self-doubt, and the importance of pushing through and taking action. Kevin emphasizes the significance of surrounding oneself with supportive and like-minded individuals, and the impact of the reference group on personal growth. He also highlights the importance of humility and staying grounded in the face of success. Kevin's ultimate goal is to be the person he needed when he was at his lowest point, and to make a positive impact on others. And, as always, he and Josh talk about failures along the way. Listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Kevin’s podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@NextLevelUniversity
The Gap and The Gain: https://amzn.to/3UkpGsy
 
Chapters
00:00 Welcome Kevin Palmieri!
00:52 Discussion on Self-Worth and Imposter Syndrome
06:33 Dealing with Failure and Disappointment
10:12 The Importance of Courage
12:06 Differentiating Failure from Learning Lessons
15:45 The Impact of Supportive Relationships
24:35 The Fear of Judging Success
27:09 Being the Person You Needed
28:37 Balancing Financial Success and Impact
29:07 The Journey of Self-Improvement
39:47 Building Self-Worth and Confidence
47:59 Reflecting on Your Progress
57:20 Surrounding Yourself with Supportive People

Being True to Yourself (or “How Men Fail at Being Our True Selves”): EP 22

In this episode of the Derelict Podcast, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and guest Cory Desimone discuss the topic of being true to oneself. They explore the challenges men face in being authentic and the limiting beliefs that hold them back. They also discuss the importance of solitude and self-reflection in discovering one's true self. The conversation highlights the need to let go of external validation and find peace within oneself. The hosts encourage listeners to take small steps towards solitude and self-discovery. The conversation explores the importance of spending time in solitude and being comfortable with oneself. It emphasizes the need to engage in self-reflection and self-discovery without any external agenda. The speakers discuss the challenges of being alone and the societal pressures that make it difficult for men to embrace solitude. They highlight the significance of loving oneself, finding value in who you are, and avoiding the comparison game. The conversation also touches on the importance of acknowledging and embracing all emotions, realizing that they are temporary and not the enemy. The speakers encourage listeners to be present with their feelings and give them honor, as well as to find ways to serve others as a means of getting out of their own heads. Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
"Invitation to Solitude and Silence" Ruth Barton: https://a.co/d/0hBqmD6E
"Overcoming Anticipatory Anxiety" Sally Winston: https://a.co/d/04mvEaoA
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
01:23 The Challenges Men Face in Being True to Themselves
06:50 The Importance of Solitude and Finding Comfort in One's Own Company
10:12 Discovering and Embracing Your True Self
24:35 Practical Tips for Embracing Your True Self
28:16 The Power of Solitude
36:32 Overcoming Societal Pressures
38:22 Self-Love and Acceptance
41:36 Embracing Emotions
46:41 Breaking Free from Comparison
51:50 Serving Others

Living Out True Masculinity, EP 21

In this conversation, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni reflects on the concept of getting away from it all and the struggle of escaping oneself. He discusses his recent travels and the experiences that have led him to question the display of manhood in the world. Josh explores the opening ceremony of the Paris Olympics and raises questions about the true masculinity exhibited by the men involved. He emphasizes the importance of living out one's true authentic masculinity and calls for men to stand up and be courageous, compassionate, and loving. Josh also shares strategies for breaking the cycle of unhealthy behaviors and encourages listeners to connect with positive influences and engage in activities that help them live out their true masculinity. Let us know what you think! Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Ongoing Resources for Men: https://www.thederelict.biz/resources
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction: Getting Away and Escaping Oneself
01:55 Questioning the Display of Manhood
05:41 Reflection on the Paris Olympics Opening Ceremony
09:48 Living Out True Authentic Masculinity
12:38 Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Behaviors
17:51 The Call for Courage, Compassion, and Love

The Crisis of True Masculinity in Society Today: A Call to Men, EP 20

WILL THE REAL MEN PLEASE STAND UP!?!? This is a call to the derelict men out there that want and need to rediscover their true masculinity! There is a CRISIS in true masculinity today! We are told that masculinity is “toxic”, “chauvinistic”, “aggressive”, and “evil”. In this episode, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni reflects on the importance of healthy masculinity and the need for men to rediscover it. He discusses the crisis of true masculinity in society today and emphasizes healthy masculinity. Josh encourages men to be courageous, compassionate, confident, calm, curious, clear, creative, and connected. He calls for men to have mentors and coaches who can guide them in living out their true masculinity. He also urges women to support and encourage men in embracing their authentic masculinity. Come join us in rediscovering your authentic, masculine self! If you’re willing to join us, let us know! Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
“The 8 C’s of Self”, Julia Sullivan, adapted from Dr. Richard Schwartz: https://foundationifs.org/images/banners/pdf/The_8_Cs_of_Self_Leadership_Wheel.pdf
“King, Warrior, Magician, Lover” Robert Moore: https://amzn.to/3vc074b
Ongoing Resources for Men: https://www.thederelict.biz/resources
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Reflection on the Importance of Healthy Masculinity
03:22 The Crisis of True Masculinity in Society Today
09:02 Differentiating Toxic Masculinity from Healthy Masculinity
14:19 The Role of Mentors and Coaches in Living Out True Masculinity
23:27 Women's Role in Supporting Men's Authentic Masculinity
30:09 The Traits of True Masculinity: Courage, Compassion, Confidence, Calmness, Curiosity, Clarity, Creativity, and Connection
41:49 Encouraging Action and Conclusion

Will the Real Men Please Stand Up!?! EP 19

Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni interviews Nicky Billou, genius behind www.sovereignman.ca! The conversation explores the topics of masculinity, the challenges faced by men in society, and the influence of external forces on shaping masculinity. It delves into the concept of toxic masculinity, healthy masculinity, and the impact of societal attitudes on men and women. The conversation also touches on the history of gender fluidity and the role of power in shaping societal norms. It discusses the infiltration of institutions by communist ideologies and the destabilization of countries. The importance of strong men in society and the potential consequences of weakening masculinity are also explored. The conversation explores the concept of masculinity, and the challenges men face in today's society. It emphasizes the importance of understanding true masculinity and rejecting toxic behaviors. The conversation also touches on the need for men to stand up for their values and beliefs, and the role of strong male figures in society. They encourage men to find support and community with other men to strengthen their masculinity. Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Nicky’s Website: www.sovereignman.ca
“The Great Patriot Protest & Boycott Book” Wayne Allyn Root & Nicky Billou: https://amzn.to/4aZ2wOw
“Hard Times Create Strong Men” Stefan Aarnio: https://amzn.to/4c38e3b
“The Way of the Superior Man” David Deida: https://amzn.to/4eozQkU
“Willing Accomplices” Kent Clizbe: https://amzn.to/45uS3cG
KGB defector Yuri Bezmenov's warning to America: https://youtu.be/bX3EZCVj2XA?si=FD9mSyOMzYF40NUS
 
Chapters
00:00 The Conflict Between Anti-Masculinity Forces and False Prophets
04:10 Exploring the Concept of Toxic Masculinity
06:06 The Influence of Societal Attitudes on Masculinity
13:05 The History of Gender Fluidity and Power
28:00 The Importance of Strong Men in Society
29:54 Understanding True Masculinity
33:14 Rejecting Toxic Behaviors
36:38 Standing Up for Values and Beliefs
46:55 The Role of Critical Thinkers
53:26 Finding Support and Community

Are you a victor?!? Join the club: building a tribe of victors! EP 18

So, after last week, do you choose to be a victim or a victor? In this episode, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni discusses the benefits of being a victim and whether it’s worth it or not! He discusses how to transition from “victim” to “victor”. He emphasizes the importance of taking responsibility for our own lives and not blaming others or institutions for our problems. Josh encourages listeners to focus on one thing they can do each day to remove hate, fear, and victim mentality from their lives and choose to be a victor instead. He also highlights the power of love and forgiveness in breaking free from the victim mindset. Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Victim vs. Victor, part 1: https://youtu.be/LIQOslF5A2w
Failure to Launch- Fear: https://youtu.be/7nWHT_NaV6E
How To Blame Effectively, Tony Robbins: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqw0FZdQl-k
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
02:50 Benefits of Being a Victim
06:12 Failures and Challenges in Relationships
09:07 The Benefit of Victim Support Groups
13:52 Disempowerment in Victim Support Groups
23:59 Choosing Courage over Fear
27:53 Choosing Love over Hate
32:13 Taking Action to Be a Victor
36:08 Conclusion and Call to Action