The Derelict Podcast

Mental Illness & Living A Double Life: Never Give Up! EP 16

Ruth Poniarski (https://ruthponiarski.com) shares her journey of mental illness. She discusses her experiences of living a double life, feeling isolated, and the impact of her husband's family history during World War II. Ruth talks about her multiple breakdowns and the patterns of psychosis that developed. She also shares how she found the right medication and therapy to manage her mental health, and how she now preemptively addresses anxiety and stress. In this conversation, Ruth shares her personal journey with mental illness and the challenges she faced in finding the right treatment and support. She discusses the importance of breaking patterns and finding a therapist who offers practical advice and support. Ruth also highlights the stigma surrounding mental illness and the need for more open conversations and support systems. She emphasizes the importance of not giving up and seeking help from trusted individuals. Ruth also shares her experience with failure and how she has learned to view it as a stepping stone to success. She encourages individuals to find ways to process their emotions, whether through talking, writing, or creative outlets. Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Ruth’s websites: https://ruthponiarski.com/ & https://battlingmentalillnessalone.com/
Ruth’s book: Journey of the Self: Memoir of an artist: https://amzn.to/4eh0o7H
 
Chapters
00:00 Living a Double Life and Feeling Isolated
02:52 Family History and Mental Health
07:07 Patterns of Psychosis
09:03 The Impact of Substance Use
21:19 Preemptively Addressing Anxiety and Stress
37:25 Breaking Patterns and Finding the Right Therapist
44:09 The Stigma Surrounding Mental Illness
46:33 Don't Give Up and Keep Trying
57:12 Viewing Failure as a Stepping Stone to Success
01:10:20 Finding Ways to Process Emotions

The Power of Intuition: Trusting Your Gut/God EP 15

We have the special privilege to welcome Mike Oppenheim to the show today! Sign up for his newsletter at www.mikeyopp.com! We covered a range of topics today including inner peace, metaphysics, failure, and the challenges of being a dad in the 21st century. But, most importantly, how to listen to your intuition, your gut, your god. Mike emphasizes the significance of listening to one's intuitive voice and the impact of cultural stereotypes on relationships. The conversation covers the themes of self-improvement, service, intuition, resilience, and hope. It delves into the challenges of personal growth, the importance of serving others, the power of intuition, the resilience in the face of adversity, and the hope for a positive future. The discussion also emphasizes the impact of personal experiences on one's perception and the importance of finding meaning in difficult circumstances. Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Visit www.mikeyopp.com and sign up for the weekly email!
Victor Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning: https://amzn.to/3Rnbcr1
 
Chapters
00:00 Introducing Mike
16:25 Mike's Incredible Story!
27:44 Navigating Fatherhood in the 21st Century
33:04 Cultural Differences and Family Dynamics
54:36 The Impact of Intuition and Trust in Relationships
58:19 The Power of Intuition and Cultural Stereotypes
01:04:02 Navigating Self-Improvement and Service
01:07:26 The Power of Intuition in Adversity
01:10:29 Resilience and Hope in Challenging Times

Racism, Anti-Semitism, & The Failure of a Moral Compass: EP 14

Talia Carner, a successful author and activist, joins Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and the Derelict Podcast to discuss redefining success and failure. Check her out at https://taliacarner.com. Talia shares her personal definition of success, which is not necessarily tied to money but to satisfaction. She talks about her career transition from marketing and advertising to writing, and how she found fulfillment in telling stories and making a positive impact on people's lives. Talia emphasizes the importance of research and learning from failures and shares her experiences of self-publishing and getting laws passed based on her books. She challenges the conventional notion of success and highlights the significance of making a difference in the world. In this conversation, Talia Carner discusses the power of individuals to bring about change and redefine success. She shares her own journey as a novelist and the challenges she faced in getting her books published. Talia emphasizes the importance of finding fulfillment in one's career and not just chasing external definitions of success. The conversation also touches on the topics of anti-Semitism and the moral compass of society. Overall, the conversation encourages listeners to embrace their unique stories, follow their moral compass, and make a positive impact in the world. Listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us!: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
Talia Carner’s Website: https://taliacarner.com
“The Boy with the Star Tattoo” Talia Carner: https://amzn.to/3R3uLUZ
 
Chapters:
00:00 Redefining Success: Beyond Money and Fame
04:17 From Marketing to Writing: A Career Transition
15:08 The Importance of Research and Learning from Failures
31:38 Challenging Societal Norms: Redefining Success
33:57 The Power of Individuals to Bring About Change
35:24 Redefining Success: Finding Fulfillment in Your Career
41:40 The Impact of Anti-Semitism on Jewish Novelists
48:20 Embracing Your Unique Story and Defying Labels
55:20 The Role of Society's Moral Compass
01:00:04 Gratitude and Perspective: Finding Joy in the Basics

Are You Ready for You 2.0?: EP 13

Since we killed Version 1.0 of ourselves last week, it’s time to try on Version 2.0! Let’s focus on what we can do right now! As always, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni discusses failures and being vulnerable, especially as a guy! Who knew the Serenity Prayer was the perfect tool for moving on to 2.0?!? Curious how that works? Listen in and let us know what you think! Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle
Origin of The Serenity Prayer
Staying Present, Eckhart Tolle
 
Chapters:
00:00 Goodbye 1.0, Welcome 2.0!
14:09 Serenity Prayer- Accelerant for Version 2.0!
15:43 God…
18:40 …grant me the serenity to accept the things I can’t change…
25:21 …give me courage to change the things I can…
48:18 …and the wisdom to know the difference.
51:28 Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time.

Ready for a Shift? Kill Version 1.0!: EP 12

Are you ready for a shift? Is “Version 1.0” holding you back? If so, this episode is for you! In this episode, I, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni, discuss my own failures transitioning from “Version 1.0” to “Version 2.0”. I share personal experiences of failure and the challenges I faced- even in launching this podcast! I explore limiting beliefs and insecurities that hold us back from reaching our full potential. Listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
The Gap and The Gain
How To Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs
 
Chapters:
00:00 Turning 40- Goodbye Version 1.0!
05:47 How Have I Failed Lately?
12:07 Are You A Derelict Like Me?
19:14 Are You Fed Up with All The "Success" Bullshit?
31:11 Insecurities and Limiting Beliefs
41:01 Letting Go of Version 1.0- Make Room for 2.0!

Staying Emotionally Present- Navigating Difficult Emotions: EP 11

How hard is it for you to stay emotionally present? What would your special person say? Well, come listen to host Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni talk to his girlfriend Sarah Jade as she tells the world how he's doing- eeks! Come listen as we talk about our failures real-time!
In this episode, we discuss staying emotionally present when dealing with difficult emotions. We explore unhealthy ways of dealing with hard emotions, including abuse, avoidance, and addiction. We also touch on the importance of taking responsibility for one's own feelings and the challenges of expressing needs and vulnerabilities. Listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources
“The Rug Really Tied the Room Together”
“Crocodile Dundee- That’s Not a Knife”
“That’s Gay” Joe Rogan
“Codependent no more” by Melody Beattie
Co-Dependents Anonymous
 
Chapters:
00:00 Welcome Sarah Jade!05:25 How We've Failed Lately08:18 Staying Present with Difficult Emotions26:54 Unhealthy Ways to Deal with Emotions: Abuse, Avoidance, & Addiction1:02:00 Healthy Ways to Deal with Emotions: Presence & People

Failure to Launch- Fear: EP 10

Last week host Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni discussed his failure to launch this podcast through the lens of grief- this week he tackles fear! So scary! (Get it?) Ever been afraid of failure? Or afraid of success? Josh tackles both and shares some failures along the way! Listen in for a few ideas of how to deal with fear- we’re in this together, you derelict!
Shoot us a note and let us know what you think: Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources- Books/Articles:
“Daring Greatly” Brené Brown
12 Step Fear Inventory
Mental Illness of Dory from Finding Nemo
 
Resources- Videos:
“Brené Brown on Empathy”
“The Power of Vulnerability” Brené Brown
Finding Nemo "Just Keep Swimming"
 
Chapters:
00:00 We're In This Together!
09:34 Fear of Failure: What If This DOESN'T Work?
24:49 Fear of Success: What If This DOES Work?
39:21 Ways to Deal with Fear
52:21 Let's Face This Shit Together!

Failure to Launch- Grief: EP 9

In this episode, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni opens up about his experience of failure and the stages of grief he went through after his podcast partner decided to quit. He gets raw and vulnerable about the stages of grief and the importance of accepting and embracing new opportunities that arise from failure. Looking forward to hearing your stories as well!
Listen in and let us know what you think: Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
7 Stages of Grief
“A Grief Observed” C.S. Lewis
How To Blame Effectively
 
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:27 Stages of Grief
06:18 Shock and Denial
08:39 Bargaining
11:22 Depression
16:16 Anger
26:28 Acceptance
30:52 Opportunity
37:15 Where Do We Go From Here?