The Derelict Podcast

Parenting- Moms, Dads, Masculine, and Feminine: EP 7

I guess not just men fail at parenting- women do too?!? Who knew?!?!
Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs are honored and privileged to have Veronica Darling join us in the "studio" today- what a blessing! She has more parenting experience than the two of us combined! Listen in for parenting fails and the core job description of us as parents. We share recent failures and reflect on being moms and dads and the importance of masculine and feminine energies in parenting our kids.
Listen in and let us know what you think: Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
“Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” Meg Meeker
“To Own a Dragon” Donald Miller
“King, Warrior, Magician, Lover” Robert Moore
 
00:00 Introduction
04:43 Failures in Parenting
17:31 Masculine and Feminine Energy in Parenting
26:58 Core Job of Dads and Moms
37:29 Power of Physical Affection & Safe/Unsafe Touch
47:56 Wrap it Up!

Parenting- The Never-Ending Learning Curve: EP 6

Ever feel like a failure as a parent? Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs sure do, we might just lead the charge! Unintentionally, of course. But, as they say, we’re all just doing “the best we can”. Nope. That’s bull. Let’s get real instead. Let’s learn how to set realistic expectations and not be too hard on ourselves. Come listen to many parenting failures and the lessons we've learned- and we keep learning!
Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
“Thinking in Bets” Annie Duke
“Dahmer” on Netflix
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
08:03 Recognizing and Apologizing for Mistakes
12:38 Balancing Support and Independence
21:11 The Never-Ending Learning Curve of Parenting
26:28 Parenting and Growth Mindset
30:41 Letting Kids Fail and Self-Sufficiency
35:04 Setting Boundaries and Trust
41:20 Recognizing Individuality in Parenting
45:35 Respect and Trust as Earned
50:02 Enforcing Rules and Earning Back Trust

Imposter Syndrome: EP 5

Ever feel like an imposter? Hosts Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs sure do! Maybe it’s at work or school- or maybe it’s as a friend or a lover or a parent? Did you know that imposter syndrome can’t really happen unless you’re doing something right? In this episode we explore how we’ve both failed at imposter syndrome and how failure always can be used as a learning opportunity! We talk about courageous conversations, vulnerability, and, of course, failure!
Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
“The Gap and The Gain” Dan Sullivan & Ben Hardy
“The Gifts of Imperfection” Brene Brown
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
02:53 Comparison and Definition
09:30 Causes and The Insidiousness of it
21:20 Limiting Beliefs and Self-Awareness
23:42 Seeking Support
28:23 Failure as a Learning Opportunity
33:33 Challenge Yourself
38:14 Who Do You Surrounding Yourself With?
43:24 Having Courageous Conversations
48:09 Taking Action and Being Vulnerable

Failure in Dating, part 2: EP 4

And….we’re back with MORE DATING FAILS!
Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs just couldn’t get enough of the conversation last week- we’re gluttons for punishment, we suppose! We aren’t needy, but you might be feeling claustrophobic…well, guess what- so are we! Listen in as we talk about relationships, self-deprecating humor, actions vs. intentions, the challenges of breakups, the awkwardness of goodbyes, and setting boundaries in post-breakup relationships.
Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
“Boundaries” Henry Cloud, John Townsend
“Codependent No More” Melody Beattie
Codependent Anonymous
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Relationship Success?
09:03 Failure in Dating: Being Claustrophobic
28:15 Accepting People for Who They Are
29:36 Self-Deprecating Humor and Actions vs Intentions
31:59 Short-Term Relationships and Breakups
38:11 The Awkwardness of Goodbyes
42:25 Breaking Up in Long-Term Relationships
46:16 Setting Boundaries and Post-Breakup Relationships
50:54 Key Takeaways

Failure in Dating, part 1: EP 3

In today’s episode, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs discuss FAILURES IN DATING! What a fun topic, holy shit! There are so many challenges of dating- particularly for divorced dads! We explore the different personas or roles they adopt in dating and how these personas can be healthy or unhealthy depending on their alignment with their core values. We also discuss the importance of taking time to work on oneself before entering the dating world and the pitfalls of using dating as a form of therapy. The conversation highlights love addiction, codependency, today’s world of dating (ew), healthy relationships, and boundaries. Let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
“Single on Purpose” John Kim
“Codependent No More” Melody Beattie
“Boundaries” Henry Cloud, John Townsend
“The 8 C’s of Self”, Julia Sullivan, adapted from Dr. Richard Schwartz
 
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and the Scary Part of Dating
08:22 Failing at Being in a Committed Relationship
10:46 Unlocking Different Dating Personas
23:13 Dating as Ineffective Therapy
25:02 Taking Time to Work on Yourself
29:07 Love Addiction and Serial Dating
29:36 Love Addiction and Codependency
36:09 The World of Dating: Online Dating, Multi-Dating, and Open Relationships
42:16 Healthy Relationships: Are They Possible?
49:40 Boundaries: Enhancing Relationships and Holding Boundaries
57:06 Summary and Resources
 

A Guide to Staying Present: EP 2

As always, Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs start with some failures- how fucking hard it is to stay present! Whether it’s with your friends, family, spouse, kids, business partners, or the checkout person- so many challenges to stay present in today's distractable world! We might have even come up with a couple of valid ideas here- listen in and let us know what you think!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources- Books:
“Atomic Habits” James Clear
“Mindsight” Daniel Siegel
“The 4-Hour Workweek” Timothy Ferriss
“Start with Why” Simon Sinek
“The Gap and The Gain” Dan Sullivan & Ben Hardy
“Altogether You” Jenna Riemersma
 
Resources- Articles/Podcasts/Other:
Richard Schwartz- 8 C’s of True Self
IFS Podcast with Timothy Ferris & Richard Schwartz
Hopscotch Immersive Art Experience

Why Start "The Derelict Podcast"?: EP 1

Welcome to "The Derelict Podcast" with Josh "Abbandonato" Tomeoni and Tyler Combs.
For the disparaged, depleted, and delinquent souls trying to find our way. We’re talking about the scary part of the journey where we don’t know how it’ll end. Let’s be free to face our fucking failures in real time; as the most unadulterated, truest version of who we are. No sugar coating. 
This podcast is about being in the midst of failure, not about the massive success we’ve had. This is not a 3 step formula that will remove all problems from your life.  It’s getting real with the failure we all face and learning from each other.  We’re in the middle of this too. 
Welcome to the shitshow, you derelict!
Email us: podcast@thederelict.biz
 
Resources:
Seinfeld, “The Show About Nothing”

The Derelict Podcast: Teaser

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